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Blog Central: Mark My Words Mark, editor-in-chief of the Sunshine Coast Daily, has been a journalist on the Coast for 20 years and is passionate about fighting for a better deal for the region. When he's not at work, he loves nothing more than spending time with his wife Julie and three kids.

The right to get plastered

November 20 | Mark Furler

I almost cried watching Sixty Minutes on Sunday night as a group of young women boasted about their equal opportunity to get plastered.

They argued – and the tragedy is I think they actually meant it – that now they were working women, making their own money, they had just as much right as every other Aussie male to go out on the town and get blind rotten drunk.

I love it when women talk about ‘great new freedoms’ they have won – like the right to terminate the life of a child, shove their children in childcare while they work endless hours, or worse, just go to the gym.

For those who missed it, the Sixty Minutes piece was on the ‘new’ problem emerging with mums at home becoming alcoholics.

It detailed the story of how one mum drank five to six bottles of wine a day – consumption that experts say does actual physical damage to the brain.

Another older woman, who sounded like she was drunk as she slurred through her interview, was actually already permanently brain-damaged so her speaking was normal.

What was frightening, however, was the argument, from the group of young women that they had every right to get plastered.

It’s a bit like the argument that women have every right to sleep around, because blokes do.

Since when have we as a society come to the conclusion that two wrongs make any right.

Aussie blokes should not be getting plastered, and neither should women.

Take it from me ladies, it’s not a good look when you stagger out of a nightclub or restaurant, slurring your words – just as it is not a good look when beer-swilling blokes with pot bellies stumble home at all hours – and then expect sex from their wives.

They are about as appealing as smokers to kiss – but that’s another story.

On Saturday night, I tagged along as Caroline Hutchinson took a tour of Mooloolaba and Caloundra for the wee hours of the morning.

While, as I reported yesterday, the police presence made a huge impact on Mooloolaba’s feeling of safety, I could not walk away from the experience without wondering whether parents see what some of their daughters wear to these clubs.

One girl walked out with such a low cut top that she left little for the imagination. She got everyone’s attention but little respect.

While it may be politically incorrect to suggest that such attire invites trouble, I’ve never been one for being political correct.

But you don’t have to go out after midnight to find out what I’m talking about.

You only have to go to Sunshine Plaza on a Thursday night to discover it’s not just the shops advertising their goods.

But you can’t go telling women what to wear, you say, that’s infringing on their rights.

Well as a parent, I reckon you certainly can – and should.

Sitting in the barbers at the Plaza certainly enlightens you to what I am talking about.

Three young blokes, well under the weather, came in and started talking about one of the local girls, the daughter of a promiment identity, as being the town bike. Needless to say what she might have been wearing.

Tom's stance against schoolies puzzles me

TOM Hulett seems to have won few friends with his stance against schoolies activities on the Sunshine Coast.

To be honest, I can’t see why he’s so troubled by the event on the Coast.

There’s a huge difference between schoolies on the Sunshine Coast and on the Gold Coast.

The fact that there was not one schoolies-related arrest on the Coast speaks volumes.

But then again, maybe there aren’t that many here after Tom took to the airwaves talking about ending council-sponsored events catering for young school leavers.

One blogger on thedaily.com.au summed it up well: “You must be shattered Tom. None of your scare tactics are working, and the schoolies are not like you keep saying. Next you’ll be pushing for the removal of the caravan park, The Wharf, and any other area where normal people can enjoy themselves, so your elitist friends can have Mooloolaba to themselves.’’

I don’t know about you, but I reckon we are asking for trouble if we don’t put some activities on for schoolies who choose to come here.

If there are not free concerts or beach parties or whatever, some young people will create their own entertainment – and the wider community may not find it as entertaining.

While schoolies are noisy and like to let their hair down, are we so intolerant as oldies that we can’t let them have some fun, within reasonable limits?

We should be far more concerned about the people who believe they have a ‘right’ to get plastered every weekend – and leave their kids at home – or on the street – for someone else to worry about.

They are the real toolies.

Recent Comments

on 20 November, 2007 at 12:30 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
Mark, now that you've had your free kick, how about getting to the real issue.
My main emphasis is that Mooloolaba is not designed or planned for late night noisy disturbance. Schoolies are not the only late night disturbance makers - but they are topical. Next month it will be a different group causing the same problem.
My professional training and successful career in education tells me that the over-emphasis on and turning a blind eye to underage drinking and the other experiences former schoolies assure me occurs, is not a sign of a mature community.
If the Coast wants schoolies and late night events, then it has to be in a suitable place. Mooloolaba is not that place.
I say it again - the right of schoolies (or anybody for that matter) to cause late night disturbance is absolutely not as important as the right of tourists and residents right to a peaceful nights sleep.
Searching out those who disagree might make for a good story but it does not impress me for thoroughness.
Why do people just not get that?
on 20 November, 2007 at 12:46 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
Mark, you more than most know that I place principle above popularity!
I am comfortable being the 'only soldier in step' if I genuinely believe it to be a matter of integrity.
If, as you suggest, schoolies want to let their hair down (legally) and if the coast wishes to involve itself in that, then why cannot this be done in a place that does not adversely affect the innocent tourists and residents who do not wish to be disturbed. They pay big money to have a good night's sleep!
Mark, let's address this, the real issue, and not attempt to marginalise me by publishing only part of the story.
on 20 November, 2007 at 8:38 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
And how do drunken, alcoholic, irresponsible parents get lumped in with people who have their kids in daycare?

Not everyone has the luxury of family support and/or sufficient income to pay the bills while staying at home with the littlies, so adding to the guilt by tarring these parents with the same brush as these other losers is just unfair and irresponsible.

- Fair point, my comments are not directed at those who are forced to work - MF
on 20 November, 2007 at 9:41 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
I wholeheartedly agree with Saffer - my kids have not been "shoved" into childcare - they have been placed carefully after much consideration by both parents. It's not only the mother's responsibilty - it's the father's as well!

Spare a thought for those who do not have the choice but to work when one income will not cover mortgage repayments and living expenses.

Believe me I wish I had family here to help out but I know I'm in the majority on the Sunshine Coast.

Fair comment Nikki - MF
on 20 November, 2007 at 9:47 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
I have a question for you Mark. If a women is 18 years old and going to night clubs some how I don't think she is going to be listening to anyone telling her what to wear, especially not from her mother or father.

I am a single mother and yes I have to work to support my child. I start at 9am and I finish at 5pm. I have a boss who looks at the clock when I leave. When I leave I go straight home to prepare dinner for my child. Are you putting all of us single mum's in the one pigeon hole?

Have you ever stopped to think that some of us single mum's don't choose to be raising children on their own. I was happily married until my husband became Dr Jekyll and abused me both emotionally & physically.

Not all single mum's are drunks or drug addicts, there are plenty of us out there they actually care about how our children are raised.

It's not a perfect world Mark.


- You're absolutely right. I am certainly not targeting my comments at women who are forced to work because of economic necessity. And yes, it is difficult to tell any teenager what to do or what to wear. But I think we have to keep trying. It's not a perfect world, but it will be a whole lot worse if we throw our hands up in the air and say it's all too hard - MF
on 20 November, 2007 at 10:48 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
Oh Lordy, where to start. Perhaps with the most noxious statement that by wearing certain (low-cut) attire, girls "invite trouble". Regardless of what a girl/woman wears or her previous sexual behaviour, no boy/man is entitled to assume he has certain rights to her body (and vice versa - think of the trend for boys to wear baggy shorts that reveal their bums).

When respected members of our society suggest otherwise, that only reinforces the belief of some males that girls in provocative clothing are "asking for it", while at the same time adding to the guilt felt by girls who do find themselves the victims of sexual assault.

In Pakistan, they banned high heels because the mere sight of them could incite men to uncontrollable states of sexual excitement.

In another Middle Eastern country a rape victim was recently lashed. Fortunately our laws hold the offenders of crime responsible for their actions, not the victims, and women are still free to where whatever they want. Perhaps our menfolk just need to learn to exercise some self-control.
on 20 November, 2007 at 10:54 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
As for "great new freedoms" exercised by women: most children benefit more by having a well-rounded, happy, fulfilled mother than a frustrated, miserable one. Back in the '50s doctors kept depressed stay-at-home mums doped up on Valium to deal with their frustrations; fortunately, feminism finally gave these women a choice in how they lived their lives. Some women thrive on being full-time mums, and who could argue with the value of that role? But being a working parent is just as valid a choice.

By the way, what about the dads who work long hours?
on 20 November, 2007 at 12:09 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
I am lucky. I have the choice. As a single parent and a recipient of a welfare payment, I could choose to stay at home, albeit with a significantly reduced quality of life for my son and I, or I can choose to work.

The latter works for me not only from a financial perspective but also from a mental health perspective to say nothing of the value of teaching my son that the world does not owe us a living and we should earn where we can instead of walking around with the handout.

His father on the other hand, chose to pursue his newfound freedom of living a life quite devoid of responsibility in response to my decision not to pursue my freedom to have a termination.

Wake up and smell the roses Mark. You seem to be living in some kind of insulated world where everything is black and white. I live in a world of many shades of grey.

Fair point Jessica, I have no argument with anything you say here. I am not talking about all mums who work - only some. There is a big difference between those that work for economic necessity, their own sanity, and those who work extremely long hours just to buy more 'toys' - the new 4WD, plasma TVs, while at the same time leaving their kids in childcare from dawn to dusk. I wonder how fewer problems we would all have if there was a mum (or dad) home more often to look after their kids. Dark age thinking I know, but I think we all have to consider what our priorities must be. Sure there are shades of grey, but we have abandoned so many of our core values in the name of commercialism that we lose sight of what is more important. - MF
on 20 November, 2007 at 1:03 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Mark another interesting article that has obviously opened up the debate, which isn’t a bad thing.
Blogging gives people a great opportunity to have their say.
I too, was concerned watching 60 minutes on Sunday night.
But for now I wanted only to comment re the Mooloolaba Schoolies part of your article.

I think the simple fact is that school leavers will continue to come here, and they have every right to do so. Their rights come with responsibilities, and we should help them in making the right decisions.

About 10 years ago both the Maroochy and Caloundra Councils decided that they would help local businesses by trying to get “in on the schoolies market."

This time of year is “off peak (or low)” so the Councillors thought it would be great to offer the Sunshine Coast as an alternative to the Gold Coast and other areas. Our rates went towards promoting the Sunshine Coast as a destination for schoolies.

So if now, certain Councillors, (Big TOM) think there is a problem, history will show who assisted in creating it.

Possible solution/s: forget “prohibition,” that has never worked.

Zero tolerance is a great catch cry to try and sound big & tough, but really it just ties up our “boys (and girls) in Blue, who are busy enough.

Why don’t we try to ensure these young visitors are made to feel welcome, give them something to enjoy and be a part of, and further assist in their growing up?

Those who simply grandstand are never going to be a part of the solution.

Councils in previous years assisted, SCADAN, Sunshine Coast Drug Awareness Network – Community Solutions and other similar bodies to cater for entertaining the schoolies. What happened? Well again the Councils in their infinite wisdom said, “hey we can do a better job, let us try to run the show!”

And of course it turned pear shaped.

Councils rightly allow Senior Citizens groups, young mother’s playgroups, political organisations, Community meetings, etc etc but what about youth dances/discos.

No we ostracise them and say how naughty they are!

Old men with old solutions can’t deliver the best outcomes that we require.
The youth of today will be the leaders of tomorrow, don’t ever forget that!

Andrew Muldoon
Buddina.
on 20 November, 2007 at 11:28 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Andrew Muldoon, I am in agreement with your suggestion - but you are too busy insulting me to consider what I have said.

If the Coast wants legal activities for Schoolies then let's do it but in a more appropriate place that does not affect the locals or tourists.

More importantly Andrew, you must have missed my earlier point - as a result of not funding Schoolie events, Council has put aside some $100,000 to run events for OUR youth (not outsiders). The first of these events will occur in April.

Incidentally, Andrew, does SCANDAN still exist? I would be delighted to reactivate them if possible.


Andrew, this 'not quite so old' bloke is willing to find a solution as the $100,000 demonstrates - why not assume there is value in those of us who seek to serve!

By the by - ask any of my past students how they judge me - they are by far more generous in describing my efforts than you or even the best at the Daily!
on 22 November, 2007 at 2:01 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Not regarding this piece Mark but re Your story Bogus leaflets 'a Chaser-style prank' Published 22 November 2007 08:51 Updated 22 November 2007 10:50, it cannot be blogged. A quick check of the courier mail website shows 247 comments at this point. This is probably the most commented on story I have seen. Why can’t it be blogged at the SCDaily?

AM

Ed: Comments are not automatically enabled on our AAP stories, such as this one, which is why you have not been able to post one. However, we will turn on the function so you can blog to your heart's content!

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