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Blog Central: Mark My Words Mark, editor-in-chief of the Sunshine Coast Daily, has been a journalist on the Coast for 20 years and is passionate about fighting for a better deal for the region. When he's not at work, he loves nothing more than spending time with his wife Julie and three kids.

You can't put a soppy spin on incest

April 8 | Mark Furler

Sixty Minutes sold it as a tale of “forbidden love” – but there’s not a shred of romance involved in a story about a father and daughter having sex – not to mention producing children.

While the soft camera angles and the gentle questioning of Peter Overton may have convinced some dimwits that it’s okay, surely we haven’t stooped so low as to think a sexual relationship between a father and daughter should be tolerated and even celebrated.

According to the psychologists, it’s call it "Genetic Sexual Attraction" or GSA.

I think one of our bloggers on thedaily.com.au yesterday better described it: GROSS.

According to Overton’s report, it’s more common than we think – no doubt along with bestiality and the like.

If you watch our court reports on the number of step-fathers and fathers being prosecuted for raping and sexually molesting their own children and step-children, perhaps it is becoming more common – but it shouldn’t be.

As a society, we owe our children – and naive adults, for that matter – a lot better future than to allow them to think it is ever okay to have a sexual relationship with a parent.

But after the Sixty Minutes report, I was almost waiting for the curtain call where we are all asked to sign a petition to allow people like John and Jenny Deaves to go on doing what they’re doing.

From what I saw, they certainly didn’t seem to make a big deal about the real outcome of their perversion – the fact that they lost a child.

John Earnest Deaves, 61, and his daughter Jennifer Anne Deaves, 39, are at the centre of an incest scandal in South Australia over their seven-year relationship.

In March this year, they were placed on three-year good behaviour bonds after pleading guilty to two counts of incest.

District Court sentencing judge Steven Millsteed said the first count of incest was based on an act of sexual intercourse which resulted in the birth of the couple’s first child.

The second count of incest related to an act of sexual intercourse which resulted in the birth of their second child in May last year.

“The first child was born in 2001 but died a few days after birth due to a congenital heart disease,” Judge Millsteed said.

The couple had started a relationship together after being reunited in 2000, almost 30 years after Mr Deaves separated from Jenny’s mother.

Because of problems with her own marriage, Ms Deaves had gone to live with her father at Yongala, in South Australia.

Jennnifer Deaves told the program: “John is my father and he’s also my partner. We don’t see each other as ‘father and daughter’. I don’t see John as my father, even though he is my biological father.

“We’re normal intellectual adults who have had careers, have had a normal life like everybody else but fallen in love with each other when we are biologically related, when we’ve discovered each other later in life.

John adds: “I class myself as a man who has met a woman and we got romantically involved.’’

It almost sounds normal, doesn’t it, with all that spin?

But then there’s this: “I was looking at him and sort of going, ‘Oh, he’s not too bad.’ Like you might look at a man across the bar at a nightclub.’’

Get a grip, Jenny, he’s your father for goodness sake!

John says much the same: “I met Jennifer and I realised she was a beautiful, desirable woman.’’

New York psychotherapist Joe Soll told the program John and Jenny were examples of a recognised phenomenon called “Genetic Sexual Attraction”.

“It is an attraction that develops between people who, generally speaking, have not been raised together and don’t have a taboo.

“They just want a hug, they want to get close and if they don’t have the taboo and they’re not careful, it can turn into sex.’’

So what do we learn out of this soppy spin – it’s just a man and woman, folks, it’s normal, it’s natural.

Tell that to the police who investigate hundreds of sex crimes involving perverted men on the Coast. They’ve now – thanks to Sixty Minutes and the extensive coverage this story has generated – got another excuse to tell their victims.

“Everybody does it, darling. It was on national TV, after all – here, I’ll show you the podcast.’’

All I can say is bring back Big Brother – at least there might be something half decent to watch on Sunday night.

They haven’t stooped to incest yet, but who knows what Ten has in store for this season!

Recent Comments

on 8 April, 2008 at 6:23 a.m. ( Suggest removal )
Would it be distasteful to make jokes about this? I'm sure the Tasmanians and Kiwis are itching to have a laugh at our expense. The stigma that comes with such humour would be healthy.
on 8 April, 2008 at 7:05 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
The sixty minutes story was poorly researched as Mr Deaves second wife has come out saying that Jenny had had contact with her father over the years.

It is very distasteful and there is nothing normal about their relationship. Does anyone think their relationship will stop?? They don't care and will continue as usual.

Cut their centrelinnk payments off if they continue to live in the same house/town. I bet that they don't work either.

I think something more like a jail sentance would have been more appropriate than a slap on the wrist.

I feel for his other children and wives.
on 8 April, 2008 at 7:31 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
theres alot you dont know about G.S.A Mark, so you should really look into it first before you jump on the bandwagon. No Im not supporting incest, but I do know that Reunions with parents after many years, can cause many different kinds of feelings including sexual feelings which is more due to the fact of trying to create that bond with the parent as a baby.

Remember, if your going to write it, write it the Junvenile Delinquentz way!
on 8 April, 2008 at 10:16 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Perhaps it's a matter of interpretation, but I thought Peter Overton's disgust with the story was pretty evident. Is your belief that channel 9 were trying to sell the story borne out of cynicism?

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