I’m not sure if you have noticed or not, but to some people I come off as high maintenance.

I know – I’m just as shocked as you.

I have no idea where that opinion came from. Other than my penchant for shiny, shiny things, that is.

Oh, and some people may tell you that I like being the centre of attention.

And I’m always late.

But other than that, I’m at a complete loss as to why I’m seen as high maintenance.

Anyways, my reputation came to light when I announced I was getting married.

After jumping around and squealing for a bit, my friends got a funny look in their eye and took a couple of steps back.

In fact, once the news had sunk in, several of them began to get a bit nervous around me.

They were absolutely convinced I would turn into the biggest bridezilla the world had ever seen.

In fact, I think some of them were worried I would create a whole new super-class of bridezillas.

So when I approached the wedding with what can best be described as absenteeism, a lot of people were surprised.

My wedding dress cost $500. I’ve worn it three times since the wedding.

A friend took the photos, another friend made the cake and a friend’s mum did our flowers.

My bridesmaids were spread across the planet and were four different shapes and sizes so I told them to wear whatever they wanted as long as it was pink.

Any shade of pink, I didn’t care.

I didn’t know what the girls were wearing until the actual day, I hadn’t seen the bouquets or the cake, and I didn’t really think about how we would do the photos.

And it all just worked.

It was fabulous. Everything was a surprise and because I wasn’t stressed I was able to enjoy every single moment of it.

And enjoy it I did – I was tipsy when I walked down the aisle and did a little twirl before I reached Alex, just because everything seemed so great.

In fact, everyone enjoyed themselves.

I know, because my friends still talk about that night – some with a little bit of wonder in their eye that I didn’t spac out and go completely crazy.

Cos the thing is, yes, your wedding day is one of the most memorable and important days in your life. But it’s just a day.

A mere 24 hours in what will hopefully be years and years and years of togetherness.

There’s a whole marriage to come after – your wedding is merely a moment to celebrate your love in front of the people who matter the most to you.

It’s not a moment to go all prima donna and demand that everyone bow down to your every whim.

Flowers die, cakes get eaten and no matter how much time you’ve spent on something, in 10 years time when you look back at the photos you are going to be wondering what you were thinking choosing something – be it the hairstyle, the dress or in some cases, the bridesmaids.

But hopefully when you look back, the reason for that day will remain as strong as ever.

Besides, it’s a lot easier to laze around and enjoy your honeymoon if you haven’t spent the past 18 months screaming at your new husband that he “just doesn’t understand”.

Oh and I’m pretty sure you get better gifts if you haven’t alienated your nearest and dearest.

Just keep it in mind.