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Blog Central: Wed, not dead What’s a girl to do? The career demands long hours and work into the night. The husband just wants a cooked meal on the table. Daily reporter Amy Remeikis takes a light-hearted look at finding the right balance between work and family as a young wife.

What price happiness?

June 26 | Amy Remeikis

There are a lot of things that Alex and I agree on.

I can’t think of any right now, but I’m sure there are some things.

What we don’t agree on is a lot easier.

Money.

Or more accurately, I like to spend it and he likes to hold on to it like some tight-fisted miser who could show Scrooge a thing or two.

OK, so maybe that was a little harsh.

But the man falls into the tight-arse category and that can be a little hard to deal with when you fall into the spend, spend, spend category.

Usually we come to some sort of compromise.

But there are times when Alex will put his foot so completely down it becomes cemented to the floor.

Like on the weekend.

I have been thinking for some time that I would like a bike.

Not for anything major – just to ride into Mooloolaba to have coffee with my friends, to feel the wind blowing in my helmeted hair and enjoy the freedom traveling at 2kmh brings.

I knew exactly the sort of bike I wanted to.

And when I walked into Bike Riders in Maroochydore, I found it.

It’s pink. Baby pink. With white wall tyres. And a basket. A cane basket. And a bell.

The seat is low and the handle bars are high and I instantly saw myself riding around the Sunshine Coast, blissfully happy on the bike of my dreams.

Sort of like Grace Kelly in her convertible driving around the Coast line, but on a bike.

Alex didn’t see any of that.

While I squealed myself silly in the bike shop and thoroughly amused the salesman as I attempted to mount a bike for the first time in about 10 years, Alex could only see one thing.

The $400 price tag.

So while I rode around the car park (just to get a feel for it, you understand) and fell in love all over again, Alex just stood there.

Until I started ferreting around for my credit card.

Then he calmly plucked it from my fingers, pocketed it and told me calmly that I wasn’t getting the bike.

So I did what any grown, accomplished, semi-intelligent woman would do in that situation.

I threw a tantrum.

But even as I whined, stamped my feet and called him the meanest man on earth, I knew the foot had come down and wasn’t moving.

He found me another bike.

It’s pink and has a (wire) basket and like a gazillion gears and the first time I took it for a spin it bucked me off.

Alex loved the $100 Trading Post price tag.

I’m planning on selling it and putting it towards the dream bike lay-by.

Because you can’t look like Grace Kelly when you are trying to work out which gear makes the stupid thing go.

Alex’s foot may have come down, but he knows that when it comes to something I really, really, really want (like a baby pink, old school bike with white wall tyres, a cane basket and a bell) I can be just as stubborn about getting my way.

I’ll keep you posted on who wins this latest battle of wills - but one thing Alex and I can both agree on is that we know the other won’t back down.

That’s part of the fun.

Recent Comments

on 26 June, 2008 at 2:03 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Why did you bother getting married ? You wont take his surname and dont give a rats that he is trying to be conservative and perhaps build a better life for you in the long run. sounds to me like your hubby is a mere fashion accessory.
on 26 June, 2008 at 3:18 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Strong words Elephant. I got married because I love him. Just because I chose to keep my own name and we have differing spending habits doesn't mean I don't appreciate him. Why should one person make all the financial decisions? I contribute to the budget as well - it's a life we are building together and I believe I should have a say in how that goes.
on 26 June, 2008 at 3:18 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Quit blaming Alex for your behaviour.
If you don't buy it, that is your choice - deal with it.

If you can afford the bike, have considered options/consequences, and still wish to buy it, just do it.

It is easier to get forgiveness than permission
on 26 June, 2008 at 3:40 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Hey, Wasnt it you that said at the beginning of the article that you dont agree on much ? I bet if you bought the bike in 6mths time it would be growing cobwebs in the shed. Good talking point with the gals though.
on 26 June, 2008 at 3:55 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Good advice Robert and very true.
on 28 June, 2008 at 1:25 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
what price happiness?

$8.35
on 1 July, 2008 at 6:06 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Woah, Elephant... perhaps those cranky pants of yours are a little too tight? The column was supposed to be funny and tongue in cheek. Has Amy offended you in some way in the real world? Rejected you at Zink nightclub perhaps??
on 2 July, 2008 at 11:08 p.m. ( Suggest removal )
Go ahead and get your Grace Kelly bike. Alex will live. You'll save more than $400 in petrol over the next few years and be able to do more, e.g. riding into Mooloolaba for coffee with friends. And fitness, anyone? There's a reason why some bikes cost more. They last longer.

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